What to do when your ex husband starts dating
It is easy to want to compare yourself to your ‘replacement’ and wonder what he sees in her, but the reality is that you’ll probably never know and you’re burning up energy better used elsewhere.
Some people start dating to force themselves to move on, some to bury the pain and yes, some are just ready to jump back in the saddle.
Seeing your ex with someone new is always going to be weird, no matter how shark-infested your island waters, or how long you’ve left them stranded.
Here’s how to deal with the weirdness and get back to the mainland, because you have far more important things to do than worry about who your ex is smooching.
You start Internet stalking their new partner WAY too hard It’s funny how fast a simple “in a relationship” status can devolve into creeping on your ex’s new girlfriend’s sister’s wedding photos. For some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since A) she already has the ex and B) you don’t really want the ex anyways.
It’s a pretty effective system; I don’t think about what they’re doing or whom they’re doing it with, and gradually the left over feelings start to fade.
If anything, you’d be happy that your ex has decided to move on.
But what if you’re still not completely over your ex?
You check the rest of the photos and see that this other person invading your ex’s profile pictures is your ex’s new beau.
And the worst part is that each photo is radiating joy and sunshine and all the good things in the world. This probably shouldn’t bother you all that much if you’re already in a happy state in your life.However, if you are still in touch with her, especially if there are kids involved, you have to find a way of dealing with the new boyfriend. But if you’re finding it hard to do so, maybe it is not so much about him but about you, and the fact that he’s now taken over what was originally your 'territory'.